Having Trouble Getting Over A Past Issue…need Some Insight….?
Posted by: Alan in Alcohol Counseling, tags: Getting, Having, Insight...., Issue...need, Over, Past, Some, Trouble
Seven years ago, I had gotten into an argument with a girlfriend that I was dating at the time. It resulted with me acting violent towards her. I pushed her down and choked her. I was arrested and charged with assault. After that, I went through a few years worth of mental counseling and anger management classes, and alcohol abuse counseling (I was intoxicated at the time that the abuse took place.) I basically did everything to turn my life around to make sure this never happened again. Anyways, the real problem I’m having is…Everyday, I think about it and I feel more sorry for it more now than ever. It’s really affected every aspect of my life. From relationships to people judging me, and when I go to get a job. I guess my question is: why am I thinking so much of it now and why am I always thinking of her? Any help would be appreciated.
I haven’t ever been able to get close to anyone since. Violence is not apart of my life anymore. I know it was and is wrong. I do not consume alcohol very often, just socially. I was 18 years old at the time and I’m now almost 26.
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January 12th, 2010 at 8:01 am
Hmmm, i too have experiences I just want to remember to forget but the fact that you keep remembering it means you know did something very wrong and you keep worrying about perhaps because you can still relate back to it in aspects of your everyday life. You must still think about her because you care about her even after what happened but at the same time you know you can never got back and put things right.
People try to forget World War 2 but if we forget the past we cannot plan for the future. People learn from previous experiences and so we move on and make changes so it can’t happenn again.
January 12th, 2010 at 8:17 am
ooo thats a tough one i wouldn’t know what to do id try to go councelling again or something …. but sorry man cant help you there
January 12th, 2010 at 2:56 pm
Have you been able to reconnect with this lady as yet?
If not, if you can find her, do let her know how greatly sorry you are for
reacting in such a manner and that you have corrected your behavior by attending all the necessary classes and that you would like to ask
for her forgiveness for what was done.
After you are done with this, you may be able to honestly move on, with or without this lady.
I am proud of you to making every effort to correct this.
I wish you the best and do keep us posted.
Yours truly~
sissa~