Comments on: What To Do When He Won’t Get Help?

By: Master Ang Gi Guong

Master Ang Gi Guong — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 02:07:21 +0000

You cango to Alanon and learn to live your life and love him and let him live his sadness, or you can leave , letting him know you love him but can no longer live like this and maybe he will get help and someday, by proof with his behavior, you may reunite, or, if he continues ike this, he may very well die, as do most alcoholics who don’t seek help.
Out of all of those who attempt sobreity, only approx. 1/2 of 1 % actually stay sober for any length of time. The rest have at best, miserable lives, and move from victim to victim until they simply die.
i am not being judgemental; i have been sober over 13 yrs and have observed this phenomena. Good luck to you, and know that you ARE loved and can live a better life— love ya doll.

By: Nora

Nora — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 23:33:03 +0000

divorce

By: Credit Expert

Credit Expert — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 17:23:09 +0000

I was in a 10 year realtionship with the same problem. You can’t help someone who does not want help. You’ll drive yourself crazy trying.
I left the relationship before I was dragged down too.

By: gands4ev

gands4ev — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 11:44:31 +0000

if you leave him his depression will only get worse you are on the right track with getting him away from food and drinking excessivly but nothing wrong with a few drinks now and then but it is only fuel for his depression . try getting him out and about with you and the kids , camping hiking (short trips at first) how bout fishing ? does he work with his hands ? a hobby may help him ! or how about a change in career? stuck in the same old job for years can be depressing in itself. other than that drugs and counseling comes to mind but drugs only work for so long and our bodies tend to get torn up from them good luck it was a real fight with my wife but she is doing much better now and there wasnt any drugs used

By: Common Sense

Common Sense — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 04:50:18 +0000

Yep, it is ultimatum time..
Get help or get out…

By: doglady

doglady — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 22:14:01 +0000

It sounds like you have done everything possible for him, but if he doesn’t want the help, there is not much you can do. He needs to see a doctor about his problems, so they can treat him. I know it’s hard to watch the person you love let himself go. An ultimatum may be your last hope. I wish you the best.

By: Helen W.

Helen W. — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 17:25:09 +0000

If this is the point when you’re done . . . you’re done. Get out, and don’t feel guilty about it. You deserve to live your life.

By: Hi its me again

Hi its me again — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 16:52:09 +0000

yes, present it. because by not giving him the ultimatum of you leaving, it is enabling him to continue to do the same thing forever….pack your bags and go to moms or sis’s or some family for the weekend … call AA and set up a meeting for him and leave the info on the table where he can see it every day. take care of yourself too… do it for your son too

By: darcy179

darcy179 — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:57:50 +0000

If he doesn’t want help that’s to bad. You are going to have to be strong and make a decision. This isn’t only affecting you it is also affecting your son. Your husband is suffering from depression so alcohol won’t help anything. If he could give up the booze things could change. If he truly loves you an ultimatum might help.

By: cherry

cherry — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 09:58:57 +0000

enoough is enough when you are on the net asking for answerw…i would say you have had enough