Alcoholism Recovery & Treatment

If your wife love you, and i mean love, she would try to stop the shouting and go to counselling, now this is what you can do, get yourself an apartment, not a house, go there for a while let the kids know you are going to therapy for your health.. spend more time relaxing to some music or reading a book, set your mind at ease, if she see you Left the home she might wake up and help herself to help you, OK, stress is the number two killer in the human society now, there is more than one way of skinning a cat.

try talking to a priest or go to your church and talk to your preacher.

Wait until she cheats on you, then take the kids and run.

first of all i have to appreciate u for ur efforts to find solution to ur problem other than divorce. itshows ur affection and loyalty towards ur wife and children. its her luck to have a husband like u but unfortunately she is unable to enjoy her luck.
coming in to point u have not given her qualification details and whether she is house wife or an employee. in my view she may have some mental disease so it is better to approach a phsycratist or go for hypnotisum though she is not willing try to take her to doctor by intoxicating her or by force
waiting for ur positve reply about ur happy family
regards
satishsharma_v@yahoo.co.in

hide a tape recorder or a cam,and record her…maybe she really doesn’t know shes yelling so much,and seeing or hearing herself,will jolt her.
I taped my daughter,she was a person that liked to scream and yell.
after she saw how she really sounded she calmed down,a whole lot.

She needs anger management. She may be trying to punish you for your drinking in the past. If she won’t go to a counselor, you may have to separate. Maybe a separation will bring her to her senses. You are not in a healthy situation for the children or for your recovery.

You easily said she is a shrew.. but have you ever thought why she is behaving like that..? Men when depressed .. not happy go buse.. roam with others avoiding home.. but what about woman..? you seem to be fairly good enough.. so forget the word of divorce and try to think from her side and if it does not works out make her understand .. after you start being the best husband..

Most “cranky” women like that need sex. If that’s not an option maybe buy her some toys, try to give her some alone time if you even can. Good luck

Tell her that if she doesn’t quit screaming at you and doesn’t get some kind of counseling for herself or for your marriage, you will take the children and get a divorce. THEN you will get her attention. You probably don’t want to divorce because of your children, I can sympathize with that. But, your children will be far better off in a environment where their mother isn’t screaming at their father 24/7. They will do just fine, I’m sure. You have to do what’s best for them and yourself.

Coming from a “shrew” herself, you just have to flatter her until she is done with her meltdown!! then let her know you appreciate her!! She put up with your drinking, its your turn to deal with some bitching!! You probably robbed her of her chances to vent by drowning her out with alcohol!! time to pay up!!
Remember $$$$ is not everything and it doesn’t make a women happy!!

You have several options. Invest in ear plugs for yourself and tubes of super glue for your wife’s mouth.

Slap the **** out of her right across the mouth, that will shut her a_s_s up.

Ear plugs? Sobriety forever would help. Walk out of the room every time she starts that yelling. Don’t respond to her, ignore her, and keep calm. Suggest either counseling or divorce. Tape record her so you have proof of her ignorant ways in case you need it in court for custody or some other reason. Don’t feed her stupidity with yelling back. This stuff really may work. What have you got to lose? Man, do yourself a favor like I did years ago, and stop drinking. For yourself and for your kids. You know, those kids see and hear everything and thats not cool. Pray about this too is my advise……..

Couple suggestions. Record her doing it, then have someone she respects listen to it, and take it to her, and have them try to talk to her. Maybe she’s just always yelled at you because of your drinking, but you were in an altered state, and didn’t pay attn. Or if not, if this is new behaviour for her, maybe she’s just scared to trust you are changing, and subconciously, she’s pushing you to see what you’ll do. Or maybe you are just really sensitive to criticism at this stage in your life, due to everything else you are dealing with. I wouldn’t suggest giving up on her; if you were an alcoholic and she stuck with you, then she must love you somewhat, I would assume, cause that’s a pretty rough situation to be in. And not to be preachy, but have you tried prayer? yes, I’m a Christian, but I don’t shove God at anybody. However, I work with a detox center that is faith based, and the men in the program all find a great strength in God to help them. Hope whatever you decide, you can both come to a peaceful agreement that is best for your babies. Might I suggest not calling her a shrew to her face, though? that wouldn’t help.

well, it depends on what her side of the story is too. For me i yell at my husband alot too, but its only because, i do everything for him, cook, clean, cut his toe nails, do his laundry, and all i ever ask from him is to spend some time with me, and he never does. the only time i get with him is when he is sleeping. And i always yell at him, because i always have to ask him ten times just to do one thing, and because he is always lying to me, and doing stupid things behind my back, and he lets other people walk all over him, and he’d rather spend time with his side of the family, and not me and our kids.