Need Advice With My 16 Year Old Son?
Posted by: Alan in Alcohol Counseling, tags: Advice, Need, With, Year
This is a kind caring compassinate 16 year old boy. maybe just a teenager but i dont think so. i beleive he is stealing from me even though he hasnt been caught red handed when confronted of course he denies it lokking straight in my eyes. hes smoking weed chewing snuff smoking cigrettes drinking alcohol. i dont believe any thing else. to have him tested results are confidential meaning i cant get the results. failing school due to just not doing the work he asked, which has been a problem for many many years. the school isnt helpful their just pushing him through THE CHILD LEFT BEHIND. he attends school that isnt a problem. no major behavior problems in school other than non compliance with his school work. ive tried grounding, loss of priveledges, talking, counseling, yelling everything i could think of plus stuck with it without success. father lives in the home along with a oder brother who is 18. no help from either of these two basically. this school year he will actually fail.
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February 10th, 2010 at 2:49 pm
the only thing you can do is keep trying 2 get through 2 him.you r doing the right things just keep it up.if he chooses 2 ruin his life he will do just that though.at 16 they really think they have the world figured out and the rest of us r stupid.
yelling never works they tune that out.I currently have my 16 year old grounded.she has no phone,tv,music basically nothing and she is still giving me grief.she has been grounded now for 2 months.I look at it this way she can stay grounded until she is 18.
February 10th, 2010 at 5:51 pm
The No Child Left Behind Act Of 2001
Is the biggest joke they came up with to get parent’s of them for not teaching or kids.
I have be fighting the system for many year’s
Some teacher’s care far and between what the law stands far it’s not worded right is they have a couple of tutor’s they ( fly ) through the school’s.
Not helping!!!! Say your our my child is failing in, History well the tutor may only teach, Math.
See the school has a plan weekly schedule and they cannot stop for one or two child they cannot even stop for the owe class.
If they do not do their weekly assignment they could lose their job I’m a expert on this the school board wants to lock the door’s when they see me because i care.
They want parents to stay home and hush and teach the kid’s that’s way there so much homework.
If your child is failing and doing bad thing’s, stealing, drug’s are what ever it mainly in who he hangs with.
So pull him out of school and homeschool very simple and cheap plus them other kid’s he is not around them.
If he does not do his work ( home schooling ) go and get a court order your the adult, put him in the nearest youth center this ask the judge to put him in a boot camp.
Yes he my get mad Say’s mean thing like he hates you but he will not when he grows up!!!
You will be saving him look at it that way.
February 10th, 2010 at 10:41 pm
frist of all i would get him out of the school and put him in a millitary school or some place they dont alow those things he is doing, like all kinds of drugs and stuff. he will beforced to do better and will turn out better than if you keep him in the same place he is now. i have a freindthat was almost the same way, he even told his parents he was going to kill them. they sent him to a millitary school for 4 years and he came back woth out a drug problem, more open to his parents, and just better all around. i hate to tell you this, but it will help him in the long run.
February 11th, 2010 at 1:47 am
just be a mother and talk to him, or find a program for teens to get their life back on track.
February 11th, 2010 at 3:19 am
He may be stealing from you, I stole from my dad and finally got caught! I was always in trouble but I was really an OK kid. I hung with the wrong crowd and didn’t know what else to do, I needed something else. I always wanted to play drums but wasn’t allowed to because of noise, I was allowed to play trumpet but it wasn’t my favorite, finally got the drums played awhile and changed to bass guitar, what I am telling you is, I found something else and changed friends (music), my Dad finally let me do something I wanted to do, and that is what it took to get me to change! Is there something your son would like to do (that is good) that maybe he hasn’t been allowed to do because you or your husband don’t like the idea? Just a thought….. My oldest daughter was a problem too, I tried letting her do what ever it took and for her it took Jesus and she has been great ever since.
Good Luck and God Bless You all