Comments on: I Am A Horrible Wife, Mother Person, And I Don’t Know What To Do?

By: Big J v 5

Big J v 5 — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 10:19:12 +0000

Sounds good.

By: moon shadow

moon shadow — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 05:13:36 +0000

Your headline was alarming. Who would call herself these names- no – you are not horrible so don’t say it, especially to your husband. Never belittle yourself for mistakes and don’t threaten your health or life. You never say these things in front of your children- right? Please ask your counselor to read your yahoo question so that you can get professional answers as well.
I think that he took you back and may trust you, but the yelling means he is still hurting. Calmly remind him that it will never happen again and that you had to forgive him as well. You both stepped out of your marriage and now you both promise not to do it again. You both are equally starting over. If he doesn’t stop the ranting….. you may have to leave for yourself, but mostly for those two beautiful boys who can get messed up behind all this.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 04:42:57 +0000

Um he doesn’t sound like such a good person and you are probably not happy being married to him…not because you are a horrible person. Just because your marriage didn’t work out doesn’t mean your life is over. Divorce him and start over with someone that will treat you right. He probably made you feel the way you do!

By: krystal l

krystal l — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 02:44:33 +0000

i feel the two of your are both being selfish, you have two beautiful young boys to think about. How could you think of ending your life when there just begining theres? The marriage with your husband is over and has been for a long time. I think you both just like the drama that you’ve created. The best and obvious thing to do is get a divorice. Not only is it best for the 2 of you but also your kids.

By: ouragon

ouragon — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 20:08:20 +0000

Give the Ambien to someone to hold. Talk to your dr about how you’re feeling. If you commit suicide your children will always feel you left them when you killed yourself.
Call 800.799.SAFE to discuss the dom. violence with a counselor. They can refer you to free counseling.

By: byrdie

byrdie — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 18:02:15 +0000

I think you should keep trying with the counseling. You can learn better communication methods. You were so young when you married that naturally you were not very mature in your communication and commitment to each other but now perhaps that can change. If counseling doesn’t help, time to cut loose and move on. Good luck.
p.s. you are not a horrible person at all! We all make mistakes and there is plenty of time to grow and improve in life.

By: Dr. Williams

Dr. Williams — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 17:43:30 +0000

Listen to me, you need help, and your husband needs help, too. Ambien can cause suicidal thoughts, if the dosage isn’t correct, or if it’s not the right medication for you. Please give your medication to someone you trust, and you take your children, and yourself to a safe place. You don’t want your kids to remember waking up only to find there mother dead. They do not need that kind of memory of you. Your marriage is not healthy, and it’s not worth trying to fix. You could do so much better without your spouse, you just need to have a more positive outlook. You have to believe in yourself. Until you do, you will always feel as miserable as you do now. On top of all of that, your husband is purposely bringing you down, putting you down, and mistreating you because he feels he can. You need to make the choice to end your marrige and move on without him. If you kill yourself, then he wins, he will raise your children to be like him, and you won’t have a say, do you really want that honey? Reconsider your outlook. Please.

By: Ocimom

Ocimom — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 13:40:55 +0000

Honey its not you – its him – he is an abuser – both physical and verbal. You need to GET OUT now and take the kids. Call a local abuse shelter if you have to. No way should be be putting up with this.
My ex-husband abused me for too long – not physical (tho close) but verbal/emotional. Please look up what physical and verbal abuse is. Its clear to me since I was abused. You don’t want your kids to think this is normal and now a man acts – they will just become abusers themselves or they will marry an abuser.
Abuser will do what it takes to keep control – don’t give him that control any more. And because physical abuse is involved – get a restraining order against him NOW and also for the kids too.

By: Messykat

Messykat — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 08:54:32 +0000

You’ve got 2 little boys who need you to wake up and get them out of there. It is honestly that simple. Make the call and get them to a stable environment. They matter a lot more than all this back-and-forth drama, which is destroying any chance they have of growing up into healthy adults.

By: Aunty Sue

Aunty Sue — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 06:36:40 +0000

You can not see that he is putting you down, it is control. The relationship is very unhealthy, get out.