http://alcoholismrecoverytreatment.com/378/why-should-i-go-on-ive-thrown-away-every-opportunity-given-to-me-i-want-to-die/ All you need to know about causes, symptoms, diagnosis and treatment for alcoholism Sun, 12 Feb 2012 03:30:52 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 http://alcoholismrecoverytreatment.com/378/why-should-i-go-on-ive-thrown-away-every-opportunity-given-to-me-i-want-to-die/comment-page-1/#comment-2600 Anonymous Mon, 01 Mar 2010 08:18:52 +0000 http://alcoholismrecoverytreatment.com/378/why-should-i-go-on-ive-thrown-away-every-opportunity-given-to-me-i-want-to-die/#comment-2600 I know you're probably getting sick of hearing this and you've probably heard this before. But it's true, you're not in quite as bad a place as you could be. First of all, the fact that you even realize you have regrets and that you've wasted opportunities is a good sign; it means you're not a complete idiot and you can hope to change. You haven't actually killed anyone, committed an offense that's landed you a life sentence, or been too seriously damaged yourself. I know there must be a lot of pain where you are, but the fact that you can even feel it is good. If you didn't feel pain, you would have absolutely no motivation to change, and your life would continue to suck. I've known people in worse situations than you believe it or not, and whether or not they manage to "get over" the regrets they have depends largely on the attitude-- you have to look at your experiences as something to learn from. Of course they regret they did it, but instead of being one of those people who wallows miserably in it for the rest of their lives, they pick up the pieces and put together a whole different puzzle, making sure never to trip up in quite the same way again. Yes you could be further in life if you'd never done those things, but you stopped yourself soon enough that believe it or not, you've still got quite a while to make something absolutely amazing out of the time you've now got. Then there's this: it sounds cheesy I know, but you know how the greatest artists and composers and musicians and actors are so great? They don't shove their feelings in a box or try to stifle any pain they feel, they use it to create masterpieces. It's kinda hard to explain, but where you are now can be used to get much greater perspective on where you could be--it's still very possible for you to get there. Good luck. :) I know you’re probably getting sick of hearing this and you’ve probably heard this before. But it’s true, you’re not in quite as bad a place as you could be. First of all, the fact that you even realize you have regrets and that you’ve wasted opportunities is a good sign; it means you’re not a complete idiot and you can hope to change. You haven’t actually killed anyone, committed an offense that’s landed you a life sentence, or been too seriously damaged yourself. I know there must be a lot of pain where you are, but the fact that you can even feel it is good. If you didn’t feel pain, you would have absolutely no motivation to change, and your life would continue to suck. I’ve known people in worse situations than you believe it or not, and whether or not they manage to “get over” the regrets they have depends largely on the attitude– you have to look at your experiences as something to learn from. Of course they regret they did it, but instead of being one of those people who wallows miserably in it for the rest of their lives, they pick up the pieces and put together a whole different puzzle, making sure never to trip up in quite the same way again.
Yes you could be further in life if you’d never done those things, but you stopped yourself soon enough that believe it or not, you’ve still got quite a while to make something absolutely amazing out of the time you’ve now got. Then there’s this: it sounds cheesy I know, but you know how the greatest artists and composers and musicians and actors are so great? They don’t shove their feelings in a box or try to stifle any pain they feel, they use it to create masterpieces. It’s kinda hard to explain, but where you are now can be used to get much greater perspective on where you could be–it’s still very possible for you to get there.
Good luck.

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