Apr
11
2010
Is it reasonable to NOT date/marry white men b/c they have high divorce and alcoholism rate?
Posted by: Alan in alcoholism treatment, tags: Alcoholism, date/marry, Divorce, High, rate, reasonable, They, White
White males have some of the highest rates of divorce, alcoholism, and out of wedlock children(Sweden, Denmark, Norway, Iceland, Finland, France, etc) lead in Europe with this. IS it bigoted to not get romantically involved with white men b/c of this? If many of them are great, why are 50% or more of them divorced from their first or even second wives to begin with? Surely, it can’t be the woman’s fault all the time, can it?
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April 11th, 2010 at 7:01 pm
no its not to with the ladies but then i dont think the race of the guy is any real indicator that the relationship will last — you have to closely look at the statistics — you may find the other races dont get married and those that do are unusual and so have a higher survival rate but then there are also 50% of the (white) marriages that survive so you could aim to be in that group —- best wishes
April 11th, 2010 at 7:13 pm
We all make mistakes. We find someone we think we love, and we rush into marriage. Then we find out we’re not really that compatible after all.
Maybe the reason other “races” don’t high such high rates are because they stay in the abusive, horrible relationship and cheat on their spouses. Is that the type of guy you want to be involved with? Just a thought!
April 11th, 2010 at 8:07 pm
Are you getting involved with a person, or a statistic? If you only want to look at statistics, you should stay home – oops, but be careful, most accidents happen in the home, so you’re not safe there, either. You will always be safe if you never date or marry anybody. That is 100% guaranteed.
April 11th, 2010 at 8:42 pm
You seem to use statistics based on pretty much Scandinavians only, there are white people outside of Scandinavia too and they will have much different statistics. In Scandinavia it is uncommon to get married first and have children afterwards so therefore there are more children born out of wedlock however most parents get married after a couple of children or the woman often have children with different men but marries only the last one and so on. The divorce rate is not very high in Scandinavia as people tend to get married later in life. However in more religious countries marriage is considered more sacred and divorce is therefore not something they just do easily. In other places people get married early but divorce easily. I would say it’s a cultural thing not a race thing.
April 11th, 2010 at 8:53 pm
Considering that marriage doesn’t hold the same importance in Scandinavia as it does in many other countries, then the amount of children born out of wedlock is not an indication of how many children do not live together with both their parents in a normal family setting, since the parents might simply not be married.
Of course you can chose not to date/marry “white” men because you believe they have a high divorce and alcoholism rate (btw. this type of generalizing would be considered racistic here), it’s all up to you. Personally, I would focus much more on someones personality and character than I would his skin-colour or nationality. If I were to pick a husband based on nationality stereotyping, I would never have married the man I am now married to, and we have been happily married for almost a decade and have known each other for even longer.
For the record, we married so that I would get a stay permit since we were not living in the same country when we met. Had the permit not been an issue, we probably would not have married. A piece of paper and rings on our finger hasn’t changed the way we feel about each other or our commitment to each other.
An interesting fact; Scandinavians do not use colours to describe each other. I’ve never heard anyone here call themselves white or someone else black, brown, yellow or purple for that matter, and I would never use a colour to describe myself of any of my friends. Here’s it’s “The girl from Kenya”, “My friend with the three little boys”, “The guy who drives the white Fiat” etc.
April 11th, 2010 at 8:53 pm
As someone has already mentioned Scandinavia has a completely different culture to, let’s say, America. We are not a very religious people and marriage is not as important as in other countries. Most people I know have children first and then maybe get married…or don’t at all. Plus it is silly to think that white people only exist in these countries.
I think you need to open your mind a little bit…
April 11th, 2010 at 9:33 pm
To avoid any further troubles in your life I suggest lying on your stomach on your living room carpet.