How do I convince my husband that I need inpatient rehab for alcoholism? He insists that it won’t help me.?
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Question by Cindy: How do I convince my husband that I need inpatient rehab for alcoholism? He insists that it won’t help me.?
Because I tried outpatient rehab once and didn’t stick with it, he is positive that “rehab” of any sort would be a useless waste of money. I keep thinking of all the money I currently spend on wine…. This has been going on for three years, ever since I had gastric bypass and could no longer fulfill my food addiction. I apparently just replaced that addiction with the addiction to alcohol. ANY help would be appreciated!
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Answer by Nick
I’m not really sure about the difference between the two, but my dad used to be an alcoholic before he was told he wouldn’t make it past 39 if he kept drinking. He has to take liver pills now.
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August 6th, 2010 at 6:39 am
My father had bad alcoholism. We tried and tried to convince him to go to AA meetings or to go to rehab, but every time he did for us, it wouldn’t do anything. He’d be back to drinking within the week. Then, one day it sort of clicked in him what the addiction was doing to his life. He finally checked himself into some local AA meetings. He’s been happily sober for a year and 2 months.
If you think you need to go to rehab, and you REALLY want to stop like my father did…. You can do it. Go to rehab. Get better. It’ll be hard, but in the end it’s well worth it. I know my father has never been happier.
Oh, and about the cost of rehab…Yeah, it is expensive. But seriously, if you think about what you said about how much you spend on wine, you will be saving a lot in the long run. You would probably, over the years, increase the amount of wine you take in to get the same buzz, which would be even more than you’re paying now.
Go to rehab, seriously. Hopefully once your husband sees how much happier you are later, he’ll be glad you did.
August 6th, 2010 at 7:23 am
my dad was an abusive alcoholic and he didn’t need to go to rehab, instead he started going to AA meetings and he has been sober for five years now. i know i am only thirteen, but I’ve seen it work for people, and I’ve seen it fail. the only requirement for AA is the desire to stop drinking.
here are some websites to help.
Is AA for you?
http://www.aa.org/lang/en/subpage.cfm?page=12
How to find AA meetings.
http://www.aa.org/lang/en/meeting_finder.cfm?origpage=29
hope it helps and god bless <3
August 6th, 2010 at 8:06 am
Look at this list:
http://www.behaviortherapy.com/whatworks.htm
Note that “Twelve-step facilitation” is rated 37th out of 48 alcohol treatment methods tested, just above “free” AA meetings.
Google “gastric bypass+alcoholism”, you are not alone.
August 6th, 2010 at 8:31 am
First of all, that is amazing that you are at the point that you want to give it up forever and are willing to go to rehab! Congratulations, with that attitude you should for sure be able quit once you apply the right tools.
Having been in a very similar position to yourself before, I can tell you what helped my family to come on board was getting the assistance of a professional in the industry to validate that inpatient treatment was what would work best. Not sure if she still works there, but Linda is the person who went above and beyond to answer my families questions as well as prepare me for my rehab back to sobriety. She works at Journey and even though rehab costs money if you choose to go there, the phone call and assistance is free of charge and in my opinion priceless. She answers the phones for their helpline at http://www.journeyrecoverycenters.com
No matter what you choose, you have the right attitude, never lose that and you will bring the tools and healing into your life that are going to give you the sobriety you deserve. Best of luck!