Aug
13
2010
I am a driver for my husband alcoholism. How do I stop?
Posted by: Alan in alcoholism treatment, tags: Alcoholism, driver, Husband, Stop
question by Jessa : I am a driver for my husband alcoholism. How do I stop? We got married four years. I love him and want to stay with him, but I know he has a total alcoholic and the family, because it is suffereing. I know I can not control it. I tried very hard and now I’m to the point where I accept that can not change it. But I do not want to leave. How do I start from detatch? This is so painful for me. best answer:
response Glory
find local group Al-Anon. This is a program for people who love alcoholics. Not necessarily remain an alcoholic, to resolve and stop. The first step is to recognize and get help for themselves. Good luck.http: / / www.alanon.org.za/
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August 13th, 2010 at 6:43 am
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,the courage to change the things I can,and the wisdom to know the difference
August 13th, 2010 at 6:57 am
ask some doctors or call a hot line …. there is lots of ways and people and medications that will help.
August 13th, 2010 at 7:24 am
I think you have the answer you are looking for inside you already! The answers of the others that I have read are also very compelling, however, it is pertinent you realize that you also have a disease of attachment.
Attachment can be very harmful to you and your family(as I am sure you already know) There are groups out there that will help you through.
I understand the pain of watching someone you love slowly kill themselves. It feels like a knife through the heart, and I feel for you. Unfortunately, if your husband doesn’t feel he is an alcoholic(denial) there is no amount of convincing you can do to change his mind.
In your process of detachment; I agree with Al Anon meeting’s. It is imperative that you surround yourself with people who are, have been and possibly will soon be going through the same ordeal.
Matters of the heart are very intimate–touching the soul in ways that only one who has been there can relate. I know; in those meeting’s you will find your strength to move on, and, as a bonus, someday you will be able to reciprocate that same help to another person that is struggling.
We all grow from pain. That is an unfortunate reality, but the sun will shine–eventually. May God bless you and keep you and your family