Alcoholism Recovery & Treatment

Ok, I will try to make it short. I have been married for 12 years, I got married shortly after I turned 19, we knew each other only 8 months before we got married. Throughout these 12 years we have had many ups and so many downs. We have gone through 2 miscarriages, 2 births to healthy baby boys. We have dealt with domestic violence, I told him I was leaving him once and he punched me several times in the arm and the leg. I have begged him for more attention and affection and all he ever gave me was a hard time and then would give me a hard time about how I didn’t put out enough or give him enough freaky sex. When we first got married there was a girl who was in love with him who liked to talk about how good of a father he would make and how she knew him so much longer than I did and how good he looked naked (in front of our co-workers) and when I asked him to tell her to stop he refused and told me I was overreacting. I cheated on him after 7 years, several times while I was deployed. I found naked pics of ladies on his computer and emails of him making an appointment with some girls from craigslist which he says he didn’t follow through with. He told me he only started doing that after I told him about my indiscretions yet I found emails from prior to (which I’m not too mad about because I was doing wrong then, its about what he told me). I can add many more. I have been going to counseling and I am on antidepressants, I have struggled with depression since i was a teenager, I used cutting as a coping mechanism and alcohol to self medicate as a young adult and I have had several suicidal gestures and tried to overdose once in the past year. There’s a lot to tell about the past year since that’s how long it’s been since I told him about my indiscretions and I understand that he’s upset, rightfully so, however he tells me that he forgives me then later on proceeds to yell at me for what I did. He tells me that he trusts me again then brings everything up and tells me how horrible what I did was (which I agree with) every few weeks, I listen to him go off on me for at least 30 minutes on how at least he didn’t lie, at least he didn’t betray my trust, at least he didn’t put me at risk, at least he didn’t do the worst thing anyone could ever do. Now he says he can’t take this life because people use him and then dump him. I have tried to leave in the past but it’s always been an all or nothing thing with him. I begged to go to marriage counseling over the years. Finally he agrees to go then wants to stop going after a few sessions. He wants to go now that I want to leave. He says he’s done with this life because I used him. I am at my ropes end (literally) and I don’t know what to do. I have a months worth of Ambien that I feel like i need to take soon.

Ok, I will try to make it short. I have been married for 12 years, I got married shortly after I turned 19, we knew each other only 8 months before we got married. Throughout these 12 years we have had many ups and so many downs. We have gone through 2 miscarriages, 2 births to healthy baby boys. We have dealt with domestic violence, I told him I was leaving him once and he punched me several times in the arm and the leg. I have begged him for more attention and affection and all he ever gave me was a hard time and then would give me a hard time about how I didn’t put out enough or give him enough freaky sex. When we first got married there was a girl who was in love with him who liked to talk about how good of a father he would make and how she knew him so much longer than I did and how good he looked naked (in front of our co-workers) and when I asked him to tell her to stop he refused and told me I was overreacting. I cheated on him after 7 years, several times while I was deployed. I found naked pics of ladies on his computer and emails of him making an appointment with some girls from craigslist which he says he didn’t follow through with. He told me he only started doing that after I told him about my indiscretions yet I found emails from prior to (which I’m not too mad about because I was doing wrong then, its about what he told me). I can add many more. I have been going to counseling and I am on antidepressants, I have struggled with depression since i was a teenager, I used cutting as a coping mechanism and alcohol to self medicate as a young adult and I have had several suicidal gestures and tried to overdose once in the past year. There’s a lot to tell about the past year since that’s how long it’s been since I told him about my indiscretions and I understand that he’s upset, rightfully so, however he tells me that he forgives me then later on proceeds to yell at me for what I did. He tells me that he trusts me again then brings everything up and tells me how horrible what I did was (which I agree with) every few weeks, I listen to him go off on me for at least 30 minutes on how at least he didn’t lie, at least he didn’t betray my trust, at least he didn’t put me at risk, at least he didn’t do the worst thing anyone could ever do. Now he says he can’t take this life because people use him and then dump him. I have tried to leave in the past but it’s always been an all or nothing thing with him. I begged to go to marriage counseling over the years. Finally he agrees to go then wants to stop going after a few sessions. He wants to go now that I want to leave. He says he’s done with this life because I used him. I am at my ropes end (literally) and I don’t know what to do. I have a months worth of Ambien that I feel like i need to take soon.

Match the term with its definition.
regular health care provider such as a family physician
counselor
American Society of Addiction Medicine (ASAM)
clergy, religious educators, and church administrators
Employee Assistance Professionals (EAPs)
Al-Anon and Alateen
State Alcohol and Drug Abuse Authority
Substance Abuse Professionals (SAPs)
A. physicians should be certified by this Association to treat substance abuse and addiction.
B. this is where you should start in your search for help for substance abuse
C. this program is available in companies with as little as 10 employees and as large as 10,000 employees. It is a confidential resource used and trusted by millions of people each year.
D. these programs provide support for friends and families of people with substance abuse problems.
E. this person should be licensed to treat drug and alcohol addictions. Your doctor may refer you to one with a good reputation in your area.
F. these people have counseling skills but may not necessarily be licensed counselors. They may be able to provide assistance or advice.
G. if you are seeking help from a treatment center, make sure they are approved by this organization.
H. counselors that are individually certified to treat substance abuse and addiction.

My daughter is currently in AIT MOS 35MI, she recently got a counseling statement, on the document her sgt wrote “Recommendation for Article 92″. I looked this up online and the punishment seems really bad. She told me she has to go to UCMJ. The act she commited was as follows: Off duty, in uniform on base, drinking with other soilders in training, she got alcohol poisoning and was found face down in the mud by her sgt. who then rushed her to emergency. Can someone please tell me what can possibly happen to her from here? She also told me she will be chaptered out and will have to go to a Alcohol Abuse Program on post, the chaptering out was not officially documented yet. Based on my research online I am losing my mind back home worried sick that she does not end up in military prison. Does anyone have any information on what might happen to her? Please help. Desperate Single Mom

Me and my hubby have been together 4 yrs. and have a 3 yr. old daughter and 2 yr. old son. Everything was good in the beginning,but for the past 2 yrs. he finds every little excuse to leave. If i say one little thing that he doesnt like,he will use it as an excuse to pack his crap and leave! I’m so scared to even talk around him,because i dont know if I will say something to make him leave. He leaves us about every 3 weeks, its like he has a schedule of when to leave! He stays gone a couple days and then calls me crying and begging to come back,saying the same story over again….that he’s sorry and he will change,and like a dumb a** I always take him back,well because I love him and the kids are so attached to him,they cry everytime he leaves.He has left us over 20 times,and I am so exhausted with trying to work things out with him.He has tried counseling but gave up after the 1st visit,I have asked him why he always leaves,he denies a drug/alcohol problem(even though he gets wasted everytime he leaves),and he denies having any affairs as well.He left this last time,and called 2 days later begging and crying saying he will go to counseling if I let him back.I’m scared too….I have heard it too many times before from him.Is it worth it to give him another chance or am I just setting myself up for failure again?