Archive for January, 2012

Question by Chad C: How would a woman respond to a man in a drug and alcohol rehab, about a relationship?
Would his “problems” be unsettling or would a woman find his willingness and comitment a good thing?

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Answer by ~Bow In My Presence~
It depends on the woman. Maybe if she was in one, as well. Or maybe if she was willing to date someone in hopes that they could change, there’s plenty of dumb women. I used to one of them. I think that yes, his willingness and commitment would be a good thing. Would I date him running the risk of him messing up MY life, never!

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Question by mintman123: Has any body ever tried Rational Recovery as a way to stop Drug or Alcohol abuse?
and did it work are you still clean

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Answer by Slightly Amused 7th Account
Nope. I like my drugs. As a matter of fact I need to go shoot up with heroin now.

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Question by : how do I find a probono Lawyer for a custody case?
In Aug 2010 my husband was given custody of his son from his previous marriage because his ex wife had been deemed unfit by CPS in Arizona where she lives. She had threatened to kill the child on several occasions, had attempted suicide with him in the house, had been seen driving with him under the influence of alcohol and drugs and he was not seat-belted in the car or in his child seat (he was 3). We lived in South Carolina at the time and when my husband flew out to pick my stepson up CPS had arranged for her to come and say goodbye. She instead checked herself into the hospital and then refused to give us any of his clothes or anything of is saying she would only give it to us if my husband postponed his flight. Since we had no money and my husband is a Marine we had to get a loan from Navy Relief for the plane tickets so there was no way to postpone the flights so my stepson came to us Literally with the clothes on his back and nothing else. After he got here we tried to expedite phone calls between him and his mother but she would cry hysterically and tell him that we didn’t love him and that’s why we took him from her. She demanded that my husband talk to her every time she called and he told her he would call her for my stepson but he didn’t have anything else to say to her because he was angry at her for the situation that she had put their son in. After seeing the affect her hysterics had on my stepson( he thought he had done something wrong that made her cry and felt really guilty) we told her that until she could control herself and her behavior and stop trying to alienate him from us we would not facilitate any more phone calls between her and my stepson. She then began threatening to kill us. We had to get an order of protection which says she is not to contact us in anyway and she isn’t allowed contact with stepson either.She violated the order 5 days after being served and violated it again last night. She suffers from borderline personality disorder and one of her family members told us she has been committed 3 times on a 5150. We spoke with a Legal secretary who told us that with her history of drug and alcohol abuse and the fact that she is still abusing alcohol and drugs even though that’s a large part of why CPS took her son away, and her history of Violence ( she has an extensive arrest record) and the mental illness is all enough for my husband to ask for her parental rights to be terminated in the best interest of my stepson. The problem is we are a one income family and cannot afford a lawyer. We are desperate to keep my stepson safe. He was horribly abused when he was with her (she beat him with a belt all over his body because he said I was nice when she had told him to tell her grandma that I hit him because he wouldn’t say it, and he was locked in a room for 24 hours with her mother’s corpse and no food because she wanted to go to a party and didn’t feel like calling the coroner among other things) and we know that it is in his best interest to not be around her insanity any longer than he already has. He was so damaged when he came to us and has finally started getting to a place where he feels free to talk about what he endured and where he feels safe and we want to make sure he has a happy stable life with parents who give him all the love he deserve. PLEASE PLEASE WE NEED HELP- even if we cant find a pro- bono Lawyer We can make payments we just cant pay $ 25,000 all at once. can someone PLEASE help us find someone who can help us. We now live in California in San Diego County. ANY Advice is GREATLY appreciated.
Pressed Rat Yes I do Know how hard it is to pay of student loans. MY Brother went to law school but he is not a practicing lawyer nor could he practice in this state- otherwise id ask him! I didn’t CHOSE to be a one income family I had no choice when I lost my job and was diagnosed with Lupus. I am looking for a job but right now I stay home with my stepson. You don’t have to be rude and if you had nothing helpful to add you could have just moved on. Im not judging you so please don’t judge me.

s- as i said we are willing to pay- we just cant afford large sums like $ 5000 all at once. We live pay check to paycheck and his ex refuses to pay child support, not to mention the fact that we lost the $ 700 that I paid from my tax return for tickets for my husband to go pick up his son for his visitation that we had purchased before we got called by CPS to come get him ( he had a visit coming up that next month and we couldn’t get a refund.) We CAN make payments but we don’t even take in $ 5000

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Answer by Pressed Rat
Usually the Free Lawyers place their offices near the Free Grocery Stores and the Free Car Stores. Just look for the planet where you don’t have to pay for anything.

You choose to be a “One Income Family.” I choose not to be a “No Income Lawyer.” Do you realize how hard it is to pay off student loans?

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Question by So So Serious: Wanna know the truth about Libra males? Beat us at our own game…?
Libras Exposed! We are Narcissistic—google it if u dont know the term.

As a libra male..i know this for sure. This will let you know how to bring down those of us that think the world cannot live without us or that we are special and hurt u Just out of therapy…i know the truth about myself so i wanted to help others defend themselves against emotional hurt. So here’s how to:
1. make a libra male leave you (if thats your goal)
2. to make a libra male want you more.
Ignoring us..taking away what we desire and NEED most…ATTENTION

We use the SILENT TREATMENT when we are defeated….know, read and use this to your advantage. A libra hurt my sister…so now im exposing all of us!

Very much as a drug addict Libra males would react to the absence of his particular drug. The Libra male constantly consumes (really, preys upon) adoration, admiration, approval, applause, attention and other forms of Narcissistic Supply (attention). When lacking or deficient, a Narcissistic Deficiency Dysphoria sets in. The Libra male is and looks depressed, his movements slow down, his sleep patterns are disturbed (he either sleeps too much or becomes insomniac), his eating patterns change (he gorges on food or is unable even to look at it). He is be constantly dysphoric (sad), anhedonic (finds no interest in the world, no pleasure in anything or in any of his former pursuits and interests).

He is subjected to violent mood swings (mainly rage attacks) and all his (visible and painful) efforts at self-control fail. He may compulsively and ritually resort to an alternative addiction – alcohol, drugs, reading. This constitutes a futile effort of the narcissist both to escape his predicament – and to sublimate his aggressive urges. His whole behaviour seems constrained, artificial, full of effort and toil.

The libra male gradually turns more and more mechanical, detached, unreal. His thoughts constantly wander or become obsessive and repetitive, his speech may falter, he appears to be far away, in a world of his narcissistic fantasies, where Narcissistic Supply is aplenty.

He withdraws from this painful world which knows not how to appreciate his greatness, special skills and talents, potential, or achievements. The Libra thus ceases to bestow himself upon a cruel universe, punishing it for its shortcomings, its inability to realise how unique the narcissist is. A schizoid mode sets in: the Libra isolates himself, a hermit in the kingdom of his hurt. He minimises his social interactions and uses “messengers” to communicate with the outside. Devoid of energy, the Libra can no longer pretend (be fake) or succumb to social conventions. His former compliance gives way to open withdrawal (a rebellion of sorts). His former smiles are transformed to frowns, courtesy becomes rudeness, emphasised etiquette used as a weapon, an outlet of aggression, an act of violence.

The Libra, blinded by pain, will try to hide it, (giving you the impression he does not care, when he really does alot) seeks to restore his balance, to take another sip of the narcissistic nectar. In his quest, the narcissist Libra males turns to and upon those nearest to him. His real attitude emerges: for him, they are but tools, one-dimensional instruments on the path to gratification, Sources of Supply or pimps of such supply, catering to his narcissistic lusts.

He regards them as shallow, no longer functioning objects. In his wrath, he tries to mend them by forcing them to perform again, to function. This is coupled with horrendous and torrential self-flagellation, a deservedly self-inflicted punishment, or so the libra male narcissist feels. In extreme cases of deprivation, the narcissist may entertain suicidal thoughts, this is how deeply he loathes his self and his condition.

Through all this, the Libra is beset by a pervading sense of nostalgia. It is a malignant variety, harking back to a past, which never existed except in the thwarted grandiosity of the Libra. The longer the lack of Narcissistic Supply (attention), the more this past is glorified, re-written, the more you are missed and mourned. This serves to enhance all the other negative feelings. Put together, it already amounts to what might be clinically described as depression.

The Libra then glides into the shores of paranoia (what if i cant get her back?). From his mental closet, he draws a model of a prosecuting world (like its your fault and blame), incorporating in it those around him and events in his recent life. This gives meaning to what is erroneously perceived by the libra as a sudden shift from over supply to under or to no supply (such over and under valuations are typical of him). The apparent diminishing of the Narcissistic Supply is best explained by a theory of conspiracy. The narcissist libra male then – in pain, in despair, in fear – embarks upon an orgy of self-destruction intended to generate “alternative Supply Sources” (attention)

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Answer by Becky Sharp
My step-dad is a libra and I am a scorpio. We get along great. I usually hate people who are like the “personality” you describe above. I enjoy libra’s sharp wit and outlook on life. I think a lot of what you wrote may have more to do with the person not the zodiac in general. People, with free while of self, have the opportunity to correct bad behavior and become better people.

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Question by : Jobs at a rehabilitation center?
Ok. So I think I am interested in working at a rehabilitation center, for either drugs and alcohol, or eating disorders. But I have no idea what positions there are in rehabilitation centers, and what people in those positions do? Please help!

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