Alcoholism Recovery & Treatment

Question by Timbuk4: Why is it that the States with highest alcoholism are the gay marriage states?
Like Iowa and Massachusetts?

http://oas.samhsa.gov/2k5State/Ch3.htm#Fig3.1
http://www.npr.org/news/specials/gaymarriage/map/

Best answer:

Answer by Marino
Because Gays know how to live.

BTW… NEITHER Iowa or Mass. are the HIGHEST in Alcoholism… that honor belongs to the states with all the f#@king BORN AGAIN CHRISTIANS because they are so STUPID they live dull, boring lives and have to drink to tolerate it.

What do you think? Answer below!

Question by Timbuk4: Why is it that the States with highest alcoholism are the gay marriage states?
Like Iowa and Massachusetts?

http://oas.samhsa.gov/2k5State/Ch3.htm#Fig3.1
http://www.npr.org/news/specials/gaymarriage/map/

Best answer:

Answer by Marino
Because Gays know how to live.

BTW… NEITHER Iowa or Mass. are the HIGHEST in Alcoholism… that honor belongs to the states with all the f#@king BORN AGAIN CHRISTIANS because they are so STUPID they live dull, boring lives and have to drink to tolerate it.

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Here is my outpouring. Please don’t just answer with “get a divorce,” or “get counseling” because I need more than that. I met my husband in June 2008. He worked in the mall in the store across from mine. We were both 23. I was instantly (as was he) sexually attracted and exchanged numbers. The next day, we hung out and watched a movie and made out and he pressured me for sex but I said no. He smoked cigarettes and drank alcohol but knew I was straight-edge. We talked off and on, I flaked on him a few times and we ended up not talking again until maybe late late June 2008. He ended up getting arrested July 11 2008 and I was the first person he called. I instantly felt my heart break–there was something in him I needed and I truly cared about him. He was in jail for almost 3 months and we wrote eachother EVERY DAY. I visited him 2 days a week and would just sit outside the jail window when he didn’t have visits because I knew he could see me. He got out September 24th, and we (through the course of our letters and phone calls) became INSEPERABLE. He asked me to marry him and I said yes. We were married September 27th. When he got out, he said he wanted to change his life. No more smoking, drinking, he was continuing to stay off meth (he’d been clean for 9 months at the time) and now…we’re 7 months married, I’m 7 months pregnant, he’s smoking now, drinking alcohol, disappearing EVERY weekend and will NOT tell me where he is. He has relapsed with meth one time. I am not a saint in this. Because of my distrust, I look up his phone records, I go through his phone, even text strange numbers that he’s called late at night asking who it is. He lies about what friends’ house he’s going to be at, he tells me he’ll (for example) be home at 11pm on friday night and doesn’t come home until SUNDAY MORNING. I do not think he is cheating–he has my name tattooed on his neck and his wedding ring line is tanned on his hand. He swears he lives in the movie 8 Mile. He wants to be a rapper (he’s white…) so he (after he decided to FINALLY be honest about where he goes every weekend) goes and raps with his homeboys. He says he lies because he knows I’ll hate his friends but I tell him–I didn’t marry a rapper. I married a guy who was just as clingy as me. Not an alcohol drinking, smoking, lying, idiot that would leave me alone every weekend while I’m at home, 7 months pregnant. We have sex every couple of days and when I confronted him with my need to have sex daily (at the onset of marriage, we had sex three or four times a day) he says he’s “cool.” The truth came out when we argued in the car two nights ago: he told me to get in the backseat of his car and he was taking me to get some food at Sonic while he freestyled and drove with a 32 oz. Miller Highlife in his lap. I begged him not to drive drinking with me (and our unborn son) in the car plus he’s on probation so…but when we left Sonic and were sitting in a parking lot, I told him I wanted to sit in the passenger seat up front. So I got out and he started in on me because he thinks he doesn’t satisfy me sexually (which I NEVER said..just that we don’t do it enough.) and I said no, we don’t have sex at all. So he drove off and I was in this parking lot barefoot at 11pm. I didn’t know what to do–he sped over to me really quick and screamed out the window he was going to bring back “4 or 5 black guys to f**k (me) good” and then drove to the gas station nearby and stopped a guy presumably asking if he wanted to have sex with me. I started to walk to the grocery store to use the phone to call his sister and he came back and asked the grocery cart kid if he wanted to **** his wife’s “loose sl*tty p*ssy.” Eventually, he told me to get back in the car and we came home and laid in bed. I got so mad I started talking so filthy to him and crying asking him how he could call his wife and the mother of his child a slut and comment on my body like he did and he said it was true. LONG STORY SHORT: my husband and I have physically fought once before, we are constantly emotionally abusing each other, but at the same time, he’ll come home with my name tattooed on his neck and I feel sick thinking of him not in my or our son’s life. How can I stop being so controlling and is my controlling behavior leading him to act like this? What can we do…? We aren’t trailer trash hicks but I swear I feel like it sometimes.

My husband and I have been going through lots of problems lately… we were in marriage counseling together, but about a month ago I caught him using drugs/alcohol and talking to other girls. So he continued with counseling on his own.
He has not been using drugs (from what I know), he is still drinking but not as much and no contact with other girls.
But now he is ignoring talking to me all together, we have absolutely no time together (we work opposite schedules) but when he is home he just plays on the internet or sleeps. Then he works 12-15 hour days, with what he says… no break, or his bosses won’t let him leave work.
I try talking to him but he just yells at me to leave him alone and tells me he doesn’t want to talk.
I don’t know what to do… he is refusing to spend any time with me, and he told me his counselor is even telling him that i am the problem in our marriage… (i don’t know if he is just saying that to be mean or if the counselor is really saying that to him?)
he is refusing to even communicate with me, like he is playing a game, so I just don’t know what to do anymore… i feel so lonely and sad all the time… I just can’t understand what is going on and why he hates me so much and avoids me all the time?
To top things off, he is not even paying rent, everyday i ask him for his half and he keeps telling me he will have it tomorrow yet never does.. But I saw his paystub, and he was paid on the 31st… so maybe he is hiding money from me?
what are your thoughts/suggestions on what I should do next?

I divorced a very emotionally abusive man who was counseled for narcissism and bipolar illness. He took me through mental ups and downs for 11 years. He cheated, stole money, lied, abused alcohol and drugs. I had never heard of anyone being a narcissist until his counselers labeled him. They said he would never stop trying to manipulate and abuse me. I should get him out of my life. Any advice on recovery or similar experiences?