Alcoholism Recovery & Treatment

Question by Jem & Holograms: Are their books, based on life AFTER alcoholism, no past stories, but how to move forward?
Suggestions of book titles? How to ‘reconfigure’ your life, after you are clean? No pity and past stories.

Best answer:

Answer by Miniver
http://www.amazon.com/Feelings-Reborn-Life-After-Alcohol/dp/1410712249
I’d think most books would contain past stories even if it’s not what it’s dedicated to.
Check the source link to sift through more.

What do you think? Answer below!

I have been stuck in a dilemma for 1 year now and I’m still no closer to the answer which will allow me to move on in some way. I have a very specific career and the locations for my kind of work are few and far between. When I lost my job in my hometown (I live in England), I had to move my family 175 miles away. But soon after starting my new job, the mother of my two young children (we were never married) left me and took them back to our hometown (it was the 3rd breakup and there is no going back even if I wanted to for various reasons). For 1 year now I travel to see my children every 2 weeks for a weekend. The problem is I still can’t cope without seeing my children every day, having a family was my life. There is nothing stopping me seeing them every weekend (it is a long and hard journey after working all week and getting back to start work again). However, if I see them every week it limits my chances of moving on and starting a new life where I live now. I really want to get married and have more children in the future, having a family was my calling and joy in life. But I guess even more, I am lucky to have children already but have never experienced any joys of being in a proper relationship (having had such a bad one for so long).
Anyway, perhaps I’ve been through the worst ((the depression, counselling, alcohol miss-use etc) but basically I still can’t decide whether:
1 – I keep things as they are with seeing the children every 2 weeks and try and start a new life where I am (hopefully meeting someone etc). But this way I miss my children a lot and wonder if I will regret missing so much of them growing up in the future (the youngest has only just turned 2 years old)?
2 – Go to see them every weekend (which will seem like a lot more often than I’m used to). However, this may hinder having a life where I live and although I will see the children a lot – I haven’t moved on yet personally within the last year and things just see like they are getting worse, not better?
3 – Throw away a career that has taken 15 years to build up to and pursue a new career nearer my children (Although I can’t guarantee it, my ex is unlikely to move from our hometown). I could see the children more often and even when not with them, I know if I needed to get to them for any reason, I could do so quickly (rather than at least 3 hours on the motorway like the present). This too could affect my chances of moving on by spending a lot of time with the kids when not working. Also, a career change is a big gamble, my job is so specific that it is very hard to transfer my skills, it will mean a very large pay cut and this could be very difficult for practical reasons. I guess this is what I would like to do the most, but seems the least favourable in terms of a new relationship and career.
What do you think? The last year has been hell for me, sounds selfish I know – but I miss my kids and family life so much and don’t know if I can ever get used to that, doesn’t feel that way. Any advice would be greatly appreciated (it’s hard to decide if my decision should be powered by emotional or practical reasons?) – Thanks…

I have been stuck in a dilemma for 1 year now and I’m still no closer to the answer which will allow me to move on in some way. I have a very specific career and the locations for my kind of work are few and far between. When I lost my job in my hometown (I live in England), I had to move my family 175 miles away. But soon after starting my new job, the mother of my two young children (we were never married) left me and took them back to our hometown (it was the 3rd breakup and there is no going back even if I wanted to for various reasons). For 1 year now I travel to see my children every 2 weeks for a weekend. The problem is I still can’t cope without seeing my children every day, having a family was my life. There is nothing stopping me seeing them every weekend (it is a long and hard journey after working all week and getting back to start work again). However, if I see them every week it limits my chances of moving on and starting a new life where I live now. I really want to get married and have more children in the future, having a family was my calling and joy in life. But I guess even more, I am lucky to have children already but have never experienced any joys of being in a proper relationship (having had such a bad one for so long).
Anyway, perhaps I’ve been through the worst ((the depression, counseling, alcohol miss-use etc) but basically I still can’t decide whether:
1 – I keep things as they are with seeing the children every 2 weeks and try and start a new life where I am (hopefully meeting someone etc). But this way I miss my children a lot and wonder if I will regret missing so much of them growing up in the future (the youngest has only just turned 2 years old)?
2 – Go to see them every weekend (which will seem like a lot more often than I’m used to). However, this may hinder having a life where I live and although I will see the children a lot – I haven’t moved on yet personally within the last year and things just see like they are getting worse, not better?
3 – Throw away a career that has taken 15 years to build up to and pursue a new career nearer my children (Although I can’t guarantee it, my ex is unlikely to move from our hometown). I could see the children more often and even when not with them, I know if I needed to get to them for any reason, I could do so quickly (rather than at least 3 hours on the motorway like the present). This too could affect my chances of moving on by spending a lot of time with the kids when not working. Also, a career change is a big gamble, my job is so specific that it is very hard to transfer my skills, it will mean a very large pay cut and this could be very difficult for practical reasons. I guess this is what I would like to do the most, but seems the least favorable in terms of a new relationship and career.
What do you think? The last year has been hell for me, sounds selfish I know – but I miss my kids and family life so much and don’t know if I can ever get used to that, doesn’t feel that way. Any advice would be greatly appreciated (it’s hard to decide if my decision should be powered by emotional or practical reasons?) – Thanks…
Anyway, perhaps I’ve been through the worst ((the depression, counsel ling, alcohol miss-use etc) but basically I still can’t decide whether:
1 – I keep things as they are with seeing the children every 2 weeks and try and start a new life where I am (hopefully meeting someone etc). But this way I miss my children a lot and wonder if I will regret missing so much of them growing up in the future (the youngest has only just turned 2 years old)?
2 – Go to see them every weekend (which will seem like a lot more often than I’m used to). However, this may hinder having a life where I live and although I will see the children a lot – I haven’t moved on yet personally within the last year and things just see like they are getting worse, not better?
3 – Throw away a career that has taken 15 years to build up to and pursue a new career nearer my children (Although I can’t guarantee it, my ex is unlikely to move from our hometown). I could see the children more often and even when not with them, I know if I needed to get to them for any reason, I could do so quickly (rather than at least 3 hours on the motorway like the present). This too could affect my chances of moving on by spending a lot of time with the kids when not working. Also, a career change is a big gamble, my job is so specific that it is very hard to transfer my skills, it will mean a very large pay cut and this could be very difficult for practical reasons. I guess this is what I would like to do the most, but seems the least favorable in terms of a new relationship and career.
What do you think? The last year has been hell for me, sounds selfish I know – but I miss my kids and family life so much and don’t know if I can ever get used to that, doesn’t feel that way. Any advice would be greatly appreciated (it’s hard to decide i

I am an American who wants to move to canada. I have a bachelor’s in psychology from a US university. I also went back to school for drug and alcohol counseling. After I take the drug counseling certification test in work in the field for 3 years I will be a certified drug and alcohol counselor in the state of CT. Then I can go to the National broad of addiction counseling and they will grant me National certification in the USA. Now after I do all this and I get a work visa in Canada will I be able to work as an addictions counselor in canada. Also I’m planning to get a master’s in mental health counseling here is the US next fall.

I am still CRAZY about my ex wife. We have been divorced for 8 years but have been on and off a lot since then. Over the past year, she has been to drug and alcohol counseling is is doing GREAT with it. I have demonstrated that I am very supportive of her and we have spent a lot of time together now. It stirred up old feelings in me for her and I let her know that. We have had sex several times BUT she has a boyfriend in prison ( in a year now and has 3 or 4 more years to do ). She let me know she is still “into” him and he got a prison tattoo with her name REALLY large on his back now. She hasn’t completely shut me down and I continue to be supportive but the sex stopped when I told her how I felt. I would love to make it work with her but I really feel I need more in a relationship. Should I continue to be patient or ask her really cute friend out ?