Alcoholism Recovery & Treatment

Question by : My father won’t talk to me because of my bipolar disorder. (Mixed episode AND withdrawl right now..)?
I am a 18 year old female with anorexia and bipolar disorder type 2. I am in treatment for both at an eating disorder and addictions out-patient facility.
I am currently in a “mixed episode” with my bipolar disorder where I am depressive and hypo-manic at the same time (which is the worst times for a bipolar person because you are very depressed and somewhat suicidal and also very full of energy, flooding ideas, and willpower all at once)

Additionally, I am having withdrawal from my Benzodiazepine medications so I can go on a new medication and I am very anxious and sick from the withdrawal.

Anyway, last night I was upset and crying at literally everything and my dad was with me and started freaking out, saying that he cannot handle being with me (which hurt because him and I are very close) because of my mood swings and my instability.
He started hitting and breaking things (like, the light switch) and heavily drinking alcohol. Now he has not spoken to me since. Its been an entire day and he has said like 2 things to me all day.

he said last night as well that he did not care about me anymore and is not taking me to treatment anymore because I am not worth it. And, he threw out and ripped up my medical documents for me to get tested for physical damage from my anorexia next week.

What should I do to make him talk to me and realize that it is not my fault? is it even worth it? should I not talk to him until he apologizes? I know that he won’t..

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Answer by Stephanie F
That is sad. I would talk to him. Tell him how much you appreciate all his help and support and it is hard for both of you. You with the diseases and him as a father. You can’t imagine how hard it is for him. Tell him you would like to return to treatment as you really want to get better and become a better person. God created you for a special purpose. He wants us to forgive and not hold grudges. He Loves you and is always there for you, even when our own family isn’t. Humans in our lives will let us down a time or two in our lifetime, but God is constant. Forgive and pray and hug your dad.

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Question by mindrape: I’m working 7 days a week right now. How can I continue my alcoholism when work is interfering?

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Answer by Natalie M
Are you serious?

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I started seeing a counselor and became very depressed. For 5 yrs. now I have alone and isolated. I stared to abuse alcohol and prescription pills last fall.
Last Nov. I had a few drinks w/ a friend and met one of her husband’s single friends, he started pursuing me like crazy. I spent a few drunken nights with him. The sex was heavily influenced by alcohol and I know I would not have wanted to if I wasn’t smashed.
I knew him for only about 4 wks. when my husband found a text from him. My husb. was devastated, he got very crazy and semi-violent. He would throw things and break them and call me a whore and tell me I was nothing and worthless and engage in stalking behaviors. He made constant death threats on him. Christmas day he was screaming to my mom that she was a b*tch right in front of our kids.
I thought about leaving him, we went to counseling, my co-workers (who knew nothing of any of this) confronted me saying he was “creepy” and “abusive”. The counselor thought he was not good to be around. I came to the decision that it doesn’t matter what I want but what will give the girls the best life b/c he is a good dad.
He cleans the house, never spends any money on himself, he doesn’t drink, he (as far as I know) isn’t using porn, compliments me, prays for and with the kids, and seems to try to do the right thing.
He hasn’t had a crazy episode in a while (about 4 months) but when he has them he will say anything and everything around the kids and make constant references to this other guy. He believes all of our relationship problems were caused by me.
I feel deep in my heart that I have cursed my family and have become suicidal (just in thoughts). I know he is in pain and what I did was wrong. But I try to avoid being around him and now I have found myself attracted to another guy and feeling like I care for him. I’m not going to act on these feelings but I am scared by it.
He (husb.) tells me I’m beautiful but I think I’m hideous. I also think he always wants me skinnier/ better looking even though he doesn’t say it. He encouraged me to get breast implants. He surprised me with laser hair removal b/c he wants me hair free. I mentioned I might try the master-cleanse diet but wasn’t ready yet and he went all out buying all of the supplies. Even though I am within my healthy weight range. I never withhold sex from him but have trouble wanting him sexually.
My mom wasted her life staying with an abuser only to end up lonely in the end.
In our relationship there is just a void. I am jealous of women who say “I love my husband” because I want so badly to love him.
I am now on anti-depressants and hoping life will improve.
When I imagined my life I never thought I’d be living like this. I was someone who always sacrificed to do the right thing and now I have done the worst thing possible.
The children are all that matter and I don’t want to hurt them. I’m afraid he will hurt me or stalk me if I try to leave him. When I mentioned divorce and he said he would “fight me tooth and nail.” Yet he says all he wants is for me to be happy.
I am so confused about the right thing to do. And I don’t know if any of this is abusive or I am just unconsciously trying to get away from him.
His parents have never divorced. My parents have both divorced several times. So I don’t want to be quick to divorce. He keeps saying we can work this out and God wants us to and Satan is fighting it. I want to believe he’s right and he does really love me but I am so confused…please if you can help it will mean a lot..

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He seems really trobled?