Alcoholism Recovery & Treatment

My wife shouts at me day and night – at any little thing. I am in a de-tox progrom for alcohol (successful so far). She was requested by her doctor to not shout at me during this 2 week period. Does not stop her – picks on any little thing and shouts about my family, my housework, anything.
By the way I make a very decent salary in the silicon valley and support my wife and my 2 kids. I am not perfect but do the best that I can.
I try to resolve issues by discussion but get shouted at in return. This is a pattern with us.
What are options other than divorce (she refuses to go to counseling)? We have 2 little children