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How Do You Know If Your Husband Doesnt Want To Be With You Anymore?

Alan — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 18:20:20 +0000

My husband of nine years completely flipped out on me today. I was in town, and told him I would be about an hour, I was with my older brother and younger sister and niece and nephews. Well after an hour he called and asked why I was still there. I told him I was just hanging out, and he said ” I thought you were just gonna be gone a little while”? Well i told him I would leave in about an hour cause I had to go to the store still. So he hung up on me. After an hour he called back and I told him i was getting the stuff he asked me to get at the store. When I get home I tried talking to him and he starts yelling at me so loud our two kids open the bedroom door to see what happened. I told them to go back out and he is putting on his shoes and everything, tells me he wants me out, he will call the police, grabs my keys and takes my car keys of my set. When I do finally get them back, I happened to find them an hour later, i went outside and he took all my cds and smashed them. So i took his keys, I shouldnt have, and when he asked for them I told him its not cool is it? You tried so hard to be in control of the car and when I couldnt leave you dont like it. My kids were both there I told them to go to their rooms, and he started yelling again before they left. I told him to calm down, he was scaring them, he called me a b*tch, and all kinds of other names and said I hope you die. He will not talk to me now, I dont know what to do and I am so frustrated because I dont know how to fix it. Hes been to rehab before for alcohol but I know hes not drinking and I dont think hes doing drugs. Any help??? I want to go to counseling but he wont go.
I dont think he is even considering cheating, I mean we have been together for so long. I have two kids, yeah I am a stay at home mom, but this is a very small town so if he even though I would think he would even accuse me of it before he got so mad. I know he will never be physical with me in a bad way its not his nature. we have been together 11 years so I am sure of that. But its just trying to figure out how to fix it.
Ok, he has never done this to me before, this is all new to me. After 9 years I will not leave him because he scared me by yelling. I am trying to find a way to fix it.
he went to rehab through a clinic, said we would go to counseling after he got out, he didnt like his counselor there, but he always had a reason why not to go. now he just wont go. as for alone time or anything I doubt that is it because he just made a point of telling me weeks before that he wants to go when he wants to go. I know he has problems with dealing with stress, we both do, i have epilepsy. he takes a couple prescriptions for them but I dont know if he is now taking them or not. He just doesnt tell me
We have never mesed around on each other or been in this situation before.

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What Is Wrong With Children And Youth?

Alan — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 23:54:43 +0000

My cousin went out for her birthday with a friend, She has 2 kids that she sent to grandmas for the weekend. She did a very stupid thing..She did cocaine(First time)..and last. Her and the friend got into an argument and the friend call C&Y and reported her for doing drugs. They came checked her house and everything was fine, they gave her a urine test and left that was on a friday. They came back monday and took her 2 kids. Luckily her mom took them when C&Y placed them.. They told her she had to go to parenting,,which she finished successfully..she had to go to counseling which she finished successfull too. She also had to go to drug and alcohol…the worker told her to stay at her moms and help with the kids but do it with supervision, Thats 45 minutes away. She did becuz she wanted to be with her kids..In the meantime she lost her benefits and her job because she didnt have the gas to travel. She missed her appt to D&A classes because of this. She begged for her kids back.

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Would You Hire Me With This Resume?

Alan — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 05:56:31 +0000

I am fresh out of college with hardly any experience so I really want to create a superb resume. All input (good and bad) is greatly appreciated.
Names, phone numbers and locations have been changed for privacy protection.
JANE DOE
123 Sesame Street
Somewhere, CA 12345
123-456-7890
username@college.edu
OBJECTIVE A position in human relations utilizing strong interpersonal, writing, and research skills
EDUCATION Somewhere University Somewhere, CA
Bachelor of Science in Psychology 2005-2009
Research Methods
Designed empirical studies, conducted original research on various topics such as depression and suicide, alcohol abuse and obesity, performed measurement and data analysis in experimental and non-experimental research, communicated results in verbal and written format.
Psychological Counseling: Theories and Applications
Explored psychological counseling theories and applications, analyzed ethical considerations in counseling relationships, increased communication skills, examined attitude modification, simulation and role-playing, exercised operant and self-management methods.
EMPLOYMENT Acme Retail Store Somewhere, CA
Associate
Cashier, Sales Associate
Assisted customers in locating products, operated computerized cash register, handled large sums of cash, stocked shelves, and monitored store inventory.
EMPLOYMENT Somewhere University
Scribe Somewhere, CA
03/2009-05/2009
Note-taker for Disabled Student
Typed comprehensive notes on behalf of the student, reviewed and prepared notes, modified material and format to suit the student’s needs, typed research papers, and ensured requirements of the student were adequately met.
REFERENCES
Reference 1
Acme Center
(123) 456-7890
Reference 2
Acme Center
(123) 456-4567
Reference 3
Real Estate Agency
(123) 456-1234

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What Is The Big Picture With My Mother-inlaw?

Alan — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 11:41:05 +0000

I have been married to my husband ( her son) for 2 years and together with him for a total of 5 1/2 years.
At first we had some hard times to get through. He was verbally and mentally abusive to me from drugs and alcohol. We ended up moving to a different state and his drug use got worse. He lied to me about using. I had enough of the abuse and told him to get counseling or we were done. He opted for the door and left me with our 2 kids (ages 1 and 2). I was devestated because of all the chances I had given him.
He left state and went to his home state. I on the other hand got involved with another man who treated me like gold. I ended up being phyisically involved with him. After about 2 months, I get calls from my ex and he wants to make things right. That’s all I wanted so I imaturely dumped my new boyfriend to make things right with my children’s father.
I made him promise no more drugs and alcohol. He agreed. During our drive to his home state, somehow, his mom heard that I was sleeping with this other guy. Now I had a BIG secret to keep from my soon to be husband. To this day he is pissed that I did that with another man even though we were split up. I guess I just needed to feel like I was alive.
Well time went by and I ended up telling my soon to be husband that the rumor was true. He was devestated that I lied and did that.
My mother in law, ever since has had it out for me. When I moved here I made some friends and would talk about the problems I had. I had even told them that I was thinking of leaving him. Later they came to my MIL and told her what I said.
5 months ago my husband had been fed up with his personal health and decided to try and kill himself. I was so over stressed and scared and just mortified. On the night he had done it, I had to go home from the hospital and while I was there I called my exhusband and told him what had happend. It was all I could do to talk to someone. I couldn’t reach my parents and I didn’t want to deal with his mom any more.
Now my exhusband left a nasty answering message on my MIL’s machine and she heard that I told my ex that my husband tried to kill himself. She would tell my husband that she “knows something, but doesn’t want to say it, becuase it would rip the family apart.” He would ask me and becase she confronted me on it, I said I didn’t know what she was talking about. I knew that she wouldn’t understand that I called my ex about my husband. I wasn’t doing it to get together with him. I surely wasn’t celebrating it. I was emotionally over loaded and needed to talk to a friend. Niether my MIL or my husband understand how to be friends with someone you are divorced from. Plus we have one child together, so the bond is always going to be there.
Well, now my MIL is having us go to counseling meetings with her. I think is is insane. How many couples have counseling with their MIL? She talks about how she can’t trust me and that I am hiding things from her son. Well, I shoudl have told my husband that I talked to my ex, even though he wouldn’t understand. Now she is putting me under the bus tires and making me look awful and making things out to be more than they are. She even took my husband to my workplace and talked to my boss about how much I am being paid and that she doesn’t trust me. He had no idea she was going to do this. He stuck up for me like crazy. Yesterday she told him that she doesn’t know who I am because I have all these different sides. Sorry, but who doesn’t…anyone is going to react to their environments.
Well, now, she has brought up the whole knows something and doesn’t want to break up the family thing and my husband wants to know what she is talking about. I just told him. He was hurt and confused.
How should I treat this counseling session tomorrow? I love my husband, but I tried to tell him that she has no business investigating our personal problems and fishing for ways to smear me in the ground. He is upset with me for lying to her and him. I said I would apologize to her but if anything about our personal problems come up then I won’t talk about them in front of her. If I do, it makes her part of our marriage. She does not need to know about my insecurities or his and how we treat each other all the time. But becuase he is upset with me, he says that when my ex called her, she became involoved. Maybe so, but why have to make such a big deal out of calling my ex? Now my husband is trying to piece together the same “clues” to see what else I am doing. I am not doing anything, I just want her to leave us alone. I told my husband that I would like for him to sit with me at counseling and blatantly tell his mom that we are staying together, and he is upset that I caused him pain, biut we as a couple will discuss that issue privately without her. He is not for that AT ALL. I told him that I would not go to the session becuase his mom would be there. I do owe her an apology and that’s it. She has no right to sit in

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Need Advice With My 16 Year Old Son?

Alan — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 05:41:00 +0000

This is a kind caring compassinate 16 year old boy. maybe just a teenager but i dont think so. i beleive he is stealing from me even though he hasnt been caught red handed when confronted of course he denies it lokking straight in my eyes. hes smoking weed chewing snuff smoking cigrettes drinking alcohol. i dont believe any thing else. to have him tested results are confidential meaning i cant get the results. failing school due to just not doing the work he asked, which has been a problem for many many years. the school isnt helpful their just pushing him through THE CHILD LEFT BEHIND. he attends school that isnt a problem. no major behavior problems in school other than non compliance with his school work. ive tried grounding, loss of priveledges, talking, counseling, yelling everything i could think of plus stuck with it without success. father lives in the home along with a oder brother who is 18. no help from either of these two basically. this school year he will actually fail.

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Help With Depression?

Alan — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 23:38:06 +0000

I’m a teenager, I am sad all the time. It’s been like this for about a year. Even though I’m living with my family, I feel like I live all alone. My family doesn’t talk to me. I’ve tried to ask for counseling, but my parents won’t bother to look for one. They blame my sadness on drugs/alcohol, which I don’t do either. I feel overweight & I don’t get along with any of my friends. Please help?

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Should I Go Into Counselling With Him?

Alan — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 00:11:07 +0000

My partner of 14 years was in rehab for alcohol abuse but came straight out and started to drink again.
I threw him out.
He wants to go to counselling with me as he is going back into rehab in April and wants to get it right this time and wants to be with me.
I found out that during the time we were seperated, he slept with someone. He is sorry, says he didn’t want to hurt me, but thought that I didn’t want him anymore.
I have been so hurt, but I still love him, but am frightened. Should I go to counselling with him? Or cut my losses before I get hurt anymore?

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Help With Direction And Career Choices.?

Alan — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 23:38:25 +0000

My passion is doing an honest day’s work, if I don’t get dirty or am on my feet all day, I don’t feel purposeful. I enjoy mechanics, teaching, working with teenagers, working with my hands, staying active, creativity, and counseling.
My dad was a mechanic and I worked for him for 2 years, I’m no expert by no means but I learned. I also worked in a aviation repair station, I like mechanics.
I’m currently substitute teaching and really like working with the teenagers, also a youth leader at church.
I like sketching, working with my hands (assisting with projects, etc).
I enjoy counseling/helping, I currently volunteer at a drug alcohol rehabilitation center for adults for spiritual support.
I’m confused, I know I can do some as a hobby, and some as an outside venture, but I want something that can help others as well as intrinsically help me. Advice, steer in a direction, pointers, would be helpful as I’m 23, wanting to go back to school to either learn a trade or get my bachelors. I have a 3.6 GPA when I graduated with my A.A, I’m not great at math, other than that I’m good, taken criminal justice, business, marketing, and did well in all those too!
I’ve considered juvenile probation and parole,
Automotive technician and then go teach at a vocational school.
Teach high school and then become a high school counselor.
Money is not a big deal to me, I do enjoy freedom and being able to pursue the other things I couldn’t do otherwise.
Thank you for your time in reading this.

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Charged With Dwi And Reckless Driving Less Than A Yr After Another Reckless Driving Charge.. What Will Happen?

Alan — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 17:37:46 +0000

Ok, now before anyone starts preaching at me, believe me, I’ve been through enough hell the last week so I don’t need to hear it. Here’s the thing:
I was arrested last Fri. night and charged with DWI and reckless driving (wasn’t speeding but was swerving a bit). Spent the night in jail. License is temporarily suspended for 7 days until I appear in court (this Friday, the 29th). Last April I totaled my car and was charged w/ reckless driving and the cop told the judge that alcohol was involved, but not over the legal limit. I’m just wondering what I’m facing at this point. I have come to realize that I have an alcohol abuse problem (that I believe is caused in part by my problem with depression and anxiety/panic disorder) and I’ve contacted PCS today and set up an appt. to get some counseling for depression, panic/anxiety attacks and alcohol abuse. I’m not your typical alcoholic. I don’t have to drink every day or even every month, but when I do drink, I lose control and can’t stop. I don’t seem to be able to drink in moderation so I’ve decided I’m quitting drinking altogether to save my life, my marriage, and my family. Also going to give AA a try this Thursday. My question is….. what do you think the sentence will be and what should I say to the judge?

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Please Need Help With Health Test 10pts!!?

Alan — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 17:44:35 +0000

5. What is the first step in the alcohol recovery process?
recovery
detoxification
admission
counseling
6. Which statement about prescription medicines is FALSE?
The body can develop tolerance to certain medicines.
Medicines can enter the body in different forms.
Bacteria can develop resistance to medicines.
All medicines have one or more side effects.
7. Which statement about alcohol advertising is FALSE?
Alcohol advertisers make drinking look fun.
Alcohol companies spend billions of dollars on advertising each year.
Alcohol advertising connects drinking to a sophisticated lifestyle
Alcohol advertisers show the negative impact of drinking.
8. Which type of substance slows down the body’s functions and reactions?
narcotics
depressants
stimulants
hallucinogens
9. Which is a short-term effect on the respiratory system caused by smoking?
change in brain chemistry
frequent colds and flu
increased heart rate
lung cancer
10. How long does a recovering alcoholic generally have to struggle to maintain sobriety, or live without alcohol?
only during detoxification
for the rest of his or her life
for a few months after recovery
for a few years after recovery

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